The stories behind every person is different. Every single person on the earth has traveled a different journey. The worst thing we do is to judge a person by his action in present while we do not know even a single bit of his/her past. Life is tremendous cool when everything is going good but it is tough when nothing works according to you.

We built beautiful relationships when we move forward in life and it takes a second to break it just by judging the small actions of other person. We are not god but human. Anger, frustration, hatred is natural to us but the main point is all about how much do we have control on it. Most of the times relation between two people get disturbed when any one of them is in emotions. Decision taken while having some feelings are always wrong. Time is the one thing that heals everything.

Most of the time a moment comes in our life when we sit and look back to find mistakes in ourselves but in no one else. We were the one responsible for ruining all those beautiful relations by blaming others. If we are the one who is commenting on anything, we should be ready to take comments on ourselves as well.

 Life does not give second chances always but what it gives is a chance to not commit the same mistake again. We do not learn from our past but we always tell stories that how we ruin our past. In life if one thing that is going to help you forever is how you behaved with people and what relations you built over the time.

A time comes when people are busy and do not give ears to you. It is a time to keep patience and wait for them not to go forward and ruin everything what you built over time. People care for you if you care them. Every time the expectations are from both sides not from one side alone. If you are expecting something from others, you should be ready to do the same thing to others.

Yes, one more thing happens to our life when we meet bad people who sucks everything out of us but there is a solution for it and that is not to look back, not now, not next but never. You should avoid people who are poison to you. There are tons of people you will encounter in everyday life like these but before making any decision make sure that what you are thinking is actually correct and is not based on some random actions or a talk from someone else.

Life is beautiful, yes it is. Our 90 percent of actions mostly comes out because of the reactions to event that is happening around our surroundings. Even if I write this long article, it means something happened in recent times. Something that spark something to do in our mind. If anyone is scolding you it is hard to stand still and listen, definitely you will do something for it. If anyone is betraying you, it is hard to sit in front of him or her with a smile. If anyone is making sure that you always fail, it is hard to have good relations with him or her. Life is nothing but understanding how you deal with environment and dealing with people around you.

Life gives us lot of reasons to fight back. Fight back for the self-respect, self-evaluation, prestige, pride, motto and identity. It is very easy in today’s world that anything related to our soul can be shattered by anyone around us. It might be rejecting our existence or rejecting our own ideas. People are full of with the tremendous jealousy all around us.

There are goals in life that we want to achieve, the goals that help us to move forward in the life. The goals that are important to us for making the future beautiful. The goals that help us to create an identity we always wanted to develop. The goals that are very building blocks of the discipline we follow in our daily life. The goals that gives us pride in chasing something. The goals that differentiate us from the rest of world. Our life is so complex that we do not stay hard on one goal and keeps on changing goals based upon the situation we faced in our life. Goals are something that we do not require to change on the bases of temporary problems. We should fight with the problems of our daily life in order to save the goals. The goals are like our identity, it is not require at all keeping changing every other day. Fighting back with the problems, with the odd situation, with the people just to save goal is OK. It is not only in sports we have to keep the spirit high but also in our life we should keep it high.

Figure out the passion in life and fight back with everything to save it. It can be painting, photography, music, theatre, any kind of art or anything in the canvas of world. Fight back to save it in you. Whenever you feel nothing is remaining in you just indulge yourself into the very hobby. Time will pass in a fly and you will not feel the boredom and rejection at all. Life is all about fighting back, fighting to save the passion in you. Fighting to save the hobbies in your soul. Like a child who do not give up for toy, we have to stand and fight to not give up our hobby.

Some people in our life become the core part of our journey as we move on in life.  Whatever the situation we are in, they always come and rescue us from getting broken. Do not let them go of. Fight hard and fight back as many times as you have to but not let them go from your life. Connections are important in our life and they are like any other traits of our character. The people whom with we spent time defines who we actually are. There will be people who will connect and leave as per their easiness but the people who connect and leave as per your concerns are important. They are god to your life and do not let them go off. Fight hard for the survival of you basic instinct associated with them.

Fight back not for anyone else but for yourself. To save the truth in you, to save the human in you, to save the greed, to save the attitude, to save habit, to save the love and to save every other characteristics that defines you a human.

There is no logic in human’s connections. Yes, you read it right. I came around this question several times that what it works for one people why it not works for other. The interest in every individual are in plenty of numbers that it is nearly impossible to find two people of exact same mindset and behavior.

If you sit with one group of people, for them not all the mindset is right. If you sit with some different bench, it is a same story there. Roots are somewhere inside the brain which keeps on telling about right and wrong, the meaning is different for everyone. People have a tendency to mock others who do not behave like their mindset. It all depends on numbers; the large number in mindset wins the argument. Drinking beer or going to a club is well-accepted thing in west but not in the conservative society.

If you are an introvert or a person who is shy, it is difficult to survive in the world that keeps on talking. However, there are standards for everything that makes the society what it is today. The connection between two people depends on the love, affection, mutual respect with each other. If it is absent in any of them the connection will stop at one point of time in future. Today’s world more care about gains from each other rather than doing self-service. For everything, a person wants his/her motive to satisfy whatever the case it may be.

If you put logic between the dealing of people, it might be dangerous because logic works exactly same for everything but with humans it deviates terribly from person to person. One can have a love for movies other can have love for games. Getting a movie ticket for the person who enjoys games is not something that is the expectation of his gift. The irony is that nobody tells each other the exact thing because of fear. A fear of getting type of response.

There are people who can be nice in front of you but are the one who talk many bad words behind on your back about you. There can be people who are rude to you but are the one who loves you more than anything and having rude behavior is just a part of their personality. I tried to find logics in relations thousands time but not able to find any.

Except the people who know you since from your childhood none other person can have same repo with you except yourself. When you meet an old friend after a long time, it is hard to find the same connection because both have changed a lot during the time in different circumstances and different environment. Maybe you will have a cup of coffee or something together but it is hard to get the same repo again. The people are different and their mentality is entirely different, some are blessed and some are poor. You cannot judge anyone just by seeing them, they have their past and you don’t know what journey they have traveled.

"Failure stories are as important as success stories and nothing is wrong to have it."

We often see web is full of success stories and hardly any success story helps then what is that thing which helps the most. Yes, it is failure stories. We do not learn from our success but we learn from failures. You remember when first time you start practicing to stand, each time you fell you find out a way not to fall again then there came a point where you learnt the actual way to stand.

Life works in a same way but because of fear of failure, we do not even try for a success. We knew in the childhood how person looks like standing, we saw all the people around us who can stand easily but still we learnt it by trying by our own selves. Similarly, web and books are filled up with lot of tricks and tips, which can tell one the magic to succeed but person will not get success until he/she will not try.

A person who gets success after lot of failures is having a taste of great results and hard work. Accidental success also happens but they are rarest of gem, most of the time success comes after working hard day and night continuously without any break. Each of us saw failures and success both but to make the world better why not start-telling failure stories because there are so many who are telling their success ones.

You should pen down your failure story because:-

Startups are always fascinating when you see gaining fame, success, visibility and money as early as possible. Yes , All the talks you ever listen and all the brands you ever saw it holds true for all of them but what you don’t know is that all you get is for short duration not for very long term. People from various stages do a daunting task “Doing startup of their own”. People who are still in college are also not behind in this race. I was also one of the person in the race who did so, here are the few experiences, which are repetitive for most of the college startups:-

Above experiences are inspired from my real experiences. If you see it, there is a pattern of failure. At each step, you can avoid next step to happen. If you are really do care about the startup you should never stop. Life will give you thousands of excuses that why it can fail but believe in yourself and work hard until all comes not into your plate. The thing you lost you lost forever and the thing you gain is also going to live with you forever. Prioritize the things and grab the world.

Sitting at the corner of a coffee house, I stared an empty space. A space where nothing was present, a space that does not reflect anything but keeps on absorbing matter, a space that is so dark that even black hole will feel jealous. It was not the first time but I did it so many times that it becomes a habit. A habit that started from nowhere and made me addicted to the both coffee and empty spaces.

Life is very different from person to person for some it is boon for other it is bane. It is amazing to look people happy, who enjoy in the gatherings of their loved one but not everybody is so lucky to have this luxury. When I was betrayed for the first time it felt normal then second time it was awkward and then it becomes the routine. People are selfish and everybody has to deal with it. I feel good living alone than to be in the company of false people. People who do showoff who buy things just to impress others, who chant their success stories, who insult other people, who do backbiting. Yes, most of us have all the above traits, which is mandatory and necessary to be included among the people from elite class, but anyhow I was never able to cope up with it and eventually prefer to live life alone.

Sometimes I do think about the relations and material world but the duration of thought is not enough to keep me interacted in these. I have seen my up and downs, nobody came to console me when my time was bad. There are so many luring things people have that the shine of soul is nowhere in front of material shine. The more material one possess the more respect one gets. The number party’s one throw defines the loyal friend one have.

The society is different and it is running by very different people. The people like me do not fit to it that is the reason we are the one who eventually come out having dinner alone. We are the people who buy single ticket in theaters and we are the one who keeps on telling adventures about solo travelling, we are the one who created hype to live life like a rock star because we know that we do not fit into the society.

When I look into the sky I see stars but when society looks it looks for the skyline. When I look into the road, I see a way when society looks it looks for the destination. I do not try to find logic in every matter but society looks for it. Society even laugh with the logic and search humor with the same. I don’t fit into it. I feel more energized when I am alone and feel people sucking my energy in the group.

I hate doing short talks and hate knowing outer attire of the people. I love if the talks can be little longer and I love If I know people with their soul rather than the belongings they have. I am as extrovert as anyone else but I have my limits to show it. I love being creative and love to produce things rather than sitting at one place consuming things and doing nothing. Somewhere I feel there is an artist inside me and world change more because of my actions than the decisions people take in extraordinary parties. I love reading history and knowing about the personalities, I love relating relations. I am bit emotional but intelligent. I do not pretend fake smile, if I laugh I laugh for the reason. People call me introvert but I think I am not. People talk about me on my back, they call me mad. People feel I have a problem and attitude, they call me abnormal. People feel that I avoid them because of fear , they call me coward. I avoid going to parties , they call me unsocial. There are so many things in my life that I feel happy going to coffee house and staring empty spaces. They tell me nothing but from them I tell something to myself.

~ Nobody from the Society of Introvert 

In our everyday life, There are lot of incidents happens which gives us choice to say No or Yes. Most of us fear to say No and accept everything whatever comes in the path by Saying YES. Its fear as well as hesitation that makes us to choose YES instead we want to say NO.  Either you are in office with lot of already pending tasks or you are in the middle of something else. New things always lure to take it up and often we end up taking it by saying us. Here are the few points you should start saying NO to make your life little bit easy:-

There are also cases in the relationships where things are not going well but still you do not have the courage to say No because of which it is troubling. It is better to say No and move on instead thinking and weeping on the situation.

“Attitude” is a feeling of joy where one feels everything is settled and there is nothing to worry about. This word is having a great impact on the human race may be since from first human itself. This feeling is dangerous as well as touchwood. People do get fear from it if it is experience by someone else and also do get Goosebumps while experiencing it.

When you talk with someone the other person can feel it at an instant only. There is nothing to tell about and nothing to learn about. It is something that just gets out of you from the actions and expressions. People argued and given lectures on it. Many relationships and friendships saw end because of it. Many businesses saw a big failure through it, many countries went into war because of it. It seems really absurd how this tiny word and feeling associated to it created so much fuss in the world.

When you show the Arrogance what really happens is that your mind stops working and you get into position where you feel to be on the top of world. You don’t understand sentiments, arguments, and expressions. You feel to be in a situation where you are boss and rest all are your puppets. This whole situation can really do a lot of damage if you think about it. A person who just stopped caring about the world and is not considering any advices will be the person who will did his/her own grave.

Attitude is not always bad but it depends. If you don’t show the amount of settlements in your feeling you are doing good to you. A person gets your Arrogance (bad part of attitude) only when you show the feeling of settlement otherwise nobody can get it. The situations are like:-

All the above points I am sure you must felt or saw someone feeling. These all can put you into trouble so what should do with this behavior?

Life is unpredictable, at one day you feel like to be on top and other you feel to be under tons of weight. It is unpredictable not because it is designed like that but it is because of our expectations. There are a lot of incidents happen around us for which we can’t do anything. There are incidents that are out of control, out of our reach, out of expectations and dreams. Most of the time we expect our future based upon the present situation and we integrate it to find the big canvas. We get motivated through it and also sometimes go into the depression because of same.

There are certain things in life which tell us to be neutral and nor to be happy more than requiring neither be sad. The wisdom comes not when you don’t react to the situation but when you take it as a lesson and move on. Moving on is the biggest wisdom of life and nobody should keep holding things for a long period of time. Every second we are moving in the universe then why we should not move our thoughts? Why be stationary with one thought?

We live with multiple people but do not learn from them. We wait for the situation to happen with us instead we can give a look around us to learn from others. Why work on already solve problems when there are plenty of problems exist to be solved? We should interact with the people and listen to their experiences bad or good it doesn’t matter. Life should not be spent like sitting at one place thinking about the past.

When you take decisions most of the time it results from the thoughts of emotion gathered over your mind. Try to be calm whenever decide about something and never take a decision at an instant. Sometimes we lost the precious moments of life when heart conquers over the mind. The heart is what you want at present and mind is what you require in the long run. Do not be confuse from the orders of your own soul and take decisions whenever things are calm.

There are several questions that keep disturbing me every moment in life.  Whenever I go to perform any action I think about the incident, whether this is accepted in the society or not. Whenever I go to present my thoughts I think about the thought, whether society is good about it or not? Whenever I try to praise anyone for their courage I think whether this praise is allowed in the society? There are lots of incidents where I think more about the consequences than the action itself.

This is not only my problem but I think the world is mad before it. People do have the courage to live life in a good way but it is circumstances that everyone needs permission from the society to do it.

When I was a child there were certain things that were good and certain were bad but today I feel that things do have their own perspective from personality to personality for some waking up in the night is cool for others it is not acceptable at all. In our day to day life, there are thousands of tasks for which we look for a third world for approval.

Whenever you go to shopping malls, parties, public gatherings, market or offices you are more nervous about the action you take to enjoy than enjoying itself. You often go and see what other people are doing and then you do only those tasks as you want yourself to be accepted there.

In my point of view, life is about learning from experiences, if you like something do it and don’t wait for anybody else approval. Things and actions are right until they don’t hurt anyone seriously. I mean you can’t laugh at a funeral and you should also not allow singing a song during business meetings. These are unacceptable not by the society but as a whole but there are certain things that you know will not harm anyone but still you think society will reject it, for those things don’t wait for the society to tell whether you are right or wrong.

Society cannot tell that you are the good musician or not neither they can tell about writing skills and nor about your choices. If you like oranges and everybody else picking an apple it doesn’t mean you should also pick an apple. There are certain things that an individual choose like hobbies, passion, love, profession, degree, expressions, thoughts, wisdom, values, experiences and friends. Society shouldn’t have a right to decide on it and you also shouldn’t worry about whether it is acceptable or not.

Secrets: - Anything unknown to the outside world behind the boundaries of you.

You have heard thousand of stories about secrets of kingdom, money, adventures, knowledge and treasury but did you ever thought about secrets of yourself? Did you ever have concerns about it? Yes, you may have a question about how the traits and personality related to you can be a secret. If you will ask me … Yes, it is a secret. Anything that you do, that you think, that you perform, that you plan, All are secrets. Once you expose it to someone else the secrets become your trait and people call it personality.

You may think why I am talking about this? The personality is the outcome of the presentation from you. How you present yourself to the other is what personality is all about. People respect the individual who keeps secrets and shares only what is require. The purpose of this article is to tell you about how the communication from you can disturb your overall life within seconds if you don’t keep secrets.

When you meet someone for the first time, you both are the stranger to each other but as soon as you start observing the life and characteristics of each other you become friends. People say you share common thoughts and hence you are friends but the common thoughts … where it comes from? It comes from you and the other person around you. People meet you and love to know below points about you:-

When you compare all the above points you find out some are useful to share but others are not. The points that you should never share to everybody are called secrets. Might be the case when you share some thoughts with other person and then the person shared it with someone else who need not suppose to have the information can put you into trouble.

There are some points that you will love to hear from other back but there are some points that you do not. It all depends on you; how you present yourself in front of other to get back what you want.

There are points in life when you share everything with the other people and then they left you because there are no more things to listen from you. You become bored, lame and crazy to them.When you hide things and don’t share each minute of your life then there is an aura around you which keeps on attracting people to listen from you. You can share your happiness, wining moments, life , sometimes family background, even some of the good plans but never share your financial condition, love life, relationships, the past, failures and bad habits about you from yourself. Let them decide on you for these points, if they are true friends they will understand you irrespective of the thing whether you share each secret to them or not.